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What is a Ruined Orgasm?

A ruined orgasm is a form of orgasm control and major component of cock control that occurs as the result of a dominant stimulating a submissive to the point of orgasm and discontinuing the stimulation at the exact moment of ejaculation and/or blocking the flow of ejaculatory fluid, thus ruining the orgasm by minimizing the amount of pleasure derived from it. Ruined orgasms are commonly combined with other Femdom practices, such as tease and denial, chastity, prostate milking, and Femdom worship.

Methods of Ruining Orgasm


Abandoning is the most common method for causing a ruined orgasm and the easiest to self-administer. In an abandoned orgasm the submissive is brought to just beyond the edge, to the point of no return, and all stimulation is abruptly discontinued, causing the cock to twitch and bob and thrash about. Ejaculation does occur but without manual stimulation throughout the ejaculatory process,the orgasm becomes unsatisfying and unfulfilling. Although it unfulfilling and very uncomfortable, no physical pain is associated with this type of ruined orgasm.


Bleeding is the process of keeping the submissive on the edge of orgasm for a long period of time, creating large amounts of precum in the process. This method of ruining orgasm is sometimes referred to as robbing, and it can be a rather lengthy process, as it requires the submissive be brought to the very edge of orgasm and being kept there for hours on end. During the process, the edge gradually gets closer to orgasm, though by the time the actual orgasm occurs, the testicles have been bled dry of semen, so the cock is stimulated to a mostly dry orgasm. This type of orgasm brings with it discomfort and often times physical pain such as chaffing and a burning sensation. The longer the session lasts before orgasm, the more discomfort from chaffing and burning the submissive will experience.

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Dictating is the process of placing the forefinger over the tip of the cock to block the flow of ejaculate and keep it from escaping through the hole. This process is difficult to self-administer because of the level of self control required to block and maintain a good seal over the hole while experiencing the discomfort involved with not allowing the ejaculate to escape. Alternatively, the thumb may be used to block the flow instead of the forefinger, or various objects, such as a shot glass, an ice cube, etc.

Scrunching and Squelching

The scrunching method of ruining orgasm involves taking the head and upper part of the cock in the hand and squeezing tightly or scrunching to cock to prevent ejaculation. This method, if used at precisely the right point will not only stop the flow of ejaculate but can prevent the orgasm entirely, causing a great deal of discomfort for the submissive.

Squelching is very similar to scrunching except that the pressure is applied to the scrotum and the base of the cock preventing ejaculate from traveling up the shaft.


Thwacking is commonly used in conjunction with cock and ball torture or CBT and refers to the process where the Mistress smacks the frenulum- the sensitive ridge on the underside of the cock, with a hard fast motion. The strike, if administered properly, will send the cock into self defense mode, temporarily shutting down the reproductive system and the ejaculation process. This method is very difficult to administer successfully because it requires the strike to occur at the very point the orgasm erupts. Good communication and knowing the body language of the submissive is important in achieving a successful ruined orgasm by thwacking.

Ruined Orgasms and Orgasm Control

It is very important to note that ruined orgasms do not allow the prostate and testicles to empty completely, which on an ongoing basis could cause infection or other issues unless they are emptied between ruined orgasms. Ruined orgasms can be very effective when used in conjunction with tease and denial and other forms of orgasm control, such as coerced orgasms, prostate milking, and chastity.

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